I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that, if there is a current debate within the trans community about language and offence, it probably doesn’t need cis gay male viewers of Drag Race to butt in. I’m going to go out on a limb and say that this debate certainly doesn’t need said gay men to use it as an excuse to mock ‘cis’, ‘privilege’ and people ‘taking offence’. Seriously, you sound barely a step removed from Richard Littlejohn bleating about ‘political correctness gone mad’. I’m going to go out on a limb and say that whether or not Ru Paul and co should use ‘she-male’, you probably shouldn’t. The fact that the show depicts drag queens doesn’t give it a free pass. The fact that you watch a show about drag queens doesn’t give you a free pass. This could be extended to the odd and distasteful impersonations which have been adopted by many white gay male viewers. I am not your ‘gurl’. You don’t speak like that. Stop it.
The fact that we experience oppression and discrimination doesn’t mean that we can’t perpetuate it ourselves. This is one of the fundamental points of intersectionality. Mocking it (and trans people who disagree with you) is oppression. Simple as that.
Here’s some Audre Lorde for you: