Confessions on a Dance Floor

My final weeks living in Glasgow in the run up to April 2006 are a haze of nervous excitement and ‘oh my God what am I doing?’ fear. Being a working-class guy who lived at home during university and then moved in with my brother, moving hundreds of miles away to London for no particular reason was a Very Big Deal and I had no idea how (or if) I would cope. I can’t even remember what I did on my final evening in Glasgow – in my mind climbing into the rented white van, which my friend drove down to London on April 1st, is almost a Year Zero. My memories from before then feel different because life was different. I was different.

One of the evenings I most vividly remember involved going to a gig at the University of Glasgow student union with my brother and then rushing home to see Madonna’s new video, Sorry. The song’s parent album, Confessions on a Dance Floor, had come out the previous November and quickly proved to be ubiquitous. I had been sitting in Delmonica’s, the main gay bar, the evening after Hung Up had first been played when the DJ said that he had a treat for everyone: “Time goes by, so slowly…” Back then, to hear a song played in a bar immediately after its release felt shocking and exciting. It also made me anxious as the same DJ had played American Life on its release and rubbished it. I wanted Madonna to do well and felt a rush of relief when he said, “well that’s a lot better than her last rubbish, isn’t it?”

In November I attended a Confessions on a Dance Floor launch party at a short-lived gay bar named Icon (which I later reviewed for a local listings paper). It was a joyous event for what is widely viewed as one of Madonna’s most celebratory albums and I danced all night. Hung Up became a staple of my nights out, a song that (like Crazy In Love, Can’t Get You Out Of Me Head or Toxic before it) was such an undeniable example of pop music at its most thrilling that it elicited gleeful reactions whenever that ticking clock intro was heard.

Given the failure of the ‘difficult’ American Life album it was no surprise that the marketing for Confessions on a Dance Floor emphasised its fun, floor-filling qualities. The album itself was something of a different beast, its lyrical content far more thoughtful and introspective than you would have expected from the advance word (or indeed from Hung Up). One of its main themes has been central to Madonna’s work ever since she introduced herself with a purred “I know you’ve been waiting” and implored listeners to “Come on, take a chance/Get up and start the dance” in 1982: the shortness of life and the need to make it worthwhile. Hung Up finds her telling us there is “no time to hesitate” and that “those who run seem to have all the fun”; the hook of Sorry is the endlessly repeated disdain of “I’ve heard it all before”, suggesting that the crime of her addressee is not so much lying and/or cheating but wasting Madonna’s time by being so boring about it. The counterpoint is found in Push where she celebrates a friend/lover who makes her “go the extra mile” and be “a better version of myself”.  In Confessions (as in Madonna’s entire discography) the dance floor is a place of transformation and transcendence where you are, for an all-too-brief moment, the best that you can be. It’s where you glimpse something better, away from the mundane cruelties of quotidian life; it’s a microcosm of a life spent making your own “place I belong” and staying endlessly curious. You can dance…for inspiration.

This all obviously resonated with me as I struggled with the decision of whether to move to London. I had a good life in Glasgow: a decent job in social work, a strong network of friends whom I loved, little debt. Yet from the moment a friend (living in Oxford at the time) got in touch to say he was moving to London and suggesting I join him, I felt the nagging pull of something more. As is my melodramatic wont I raised the already high stakes of the decision: I would either move to London or I would move out of my brother’s flat and buy somewhere in Glasgow, putting down more permanent roots.

I toed and froed endlessly. I took days off work to just walk around Glasgow and think about what I wanted to do. The thought of moving absolutely terrified me – I am not someone who copes with dramatic change well. If my instinct was to remain, however, that nagging feeling kept me listening to one song from Confessions over and over.

There’s only so much you can learn in one place. The more that I wait, the more time that I waste.

Jump spoke directly to me – to my terror over leaving and to my fear that if I stayed, I would always wonder what might have been. “Are you ready to jump?” almost seemed to mock my insecurities and scream at me, ‘just bloody do it you silly fucker!’ I knew and loved Glasgow – I felt I had conquered it, in a sense. Now London stretched out before me, a new mountain to climb. I felt that I had to prove something to myself: “I can make it alone” looped within me again and again. The day I told my friend that I would come with him even now makes my legs weak – I was going to jump and I didn’t know where or how I would land. The last time I saw my mum before I moved she told me that London would make me a ‘better person’. I was secretly hoping the same.

I moved to London in April with no job and £1000 which had been left to me by my grandfather who had died the previous year. In that first year life rushed past: excitement, yes, but also loneliness like I had never known. My friend and new flatmate quickly found a girlfriend whom he spent most of his time with; I worked intermittent temp jobs, got more and more in debt and spent most of my time in a cramped flat with a single-bed and no internet access. Sometimes I sat at a table in the living room and cried, wondering what on earth I was doing there and why. Still, constantly in the background, its songs playing in every gay bar and club, its videos always on the wall at G-A-Y, was Confessions on a Dance Floor and its urge to push through that loneliness, that fear, to something better. Because that is life and some day the music will stop.

Madonna’s Confessions tour came to London in August that year. She had never played Scotland and going to London to see her had previously seemed impossible but, as tantalisingly close as I was, I couldn’t possibly afford to go. The first night she played I was sitting on the sofa feeling a bit miserable when the phone rang. It was an American friend I had recently made, a gregarious explosion of a person who had a love heart tattooed on his neck. He was back in America at the time and had decided to call just for a chat. Afterwards I had the widest grin, elated that this person who had so recently been a stranger cared about me. I allowed myself to think, “maybe this is going to be okay.”

And it is okay. Now I am fortunate enough to be able to afford seeing Madonna. Twice, in fact – I am seeing her in London and then, for the first time, in Glasgow. Seeing her there, 10 years after she helped me take the jump which led to this point, I’ll allow myself a moment of pride. Because things aren’t ‘okay’ in the way these stories are supposed to be in fiction; I didn’t one day reach this plateau of contentment after which everything was fine. The exact opposite, in fact: I came to understand that the nagging which had spurred me to London was part of being alive and would only vanish when it was over. I made some friends, found a job and eventually came to consider London my home. The place I belong, no matter how difficult it can sometimes be. “You know it won’t last long and all those lights they will turn down.”  In the meantime, you can dance.



  1. I have found out more about howupsetting. Since he has moved to London. Although he never spoke or took us in to his confidence. I felt he was afraid, to open up. And still does. I miss having a close relationship with you. I am sure this will never change. As I get older I hope one day we will bound.

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